Notes and Reflections on Sulli’s Death

Dedicated to Sulli, her fans, and family.

성경에도 이렇게 기록되어 있습니다. “생명을 사랑하며 행복한 생활을 원하는 사람은 악한 말이나 거짓말을 해서는 된다.
베드로전서 3:10 (KLB)

The author created this site with primary aim to spread the fun and other side of the news. To this end, the author focused more on K-Pop, as it is a genre where many are enjoying it.

Sulli’s recent death exposed the dark side of K-Pop, that is, pressure and expectations from agencies, fans, and netizens. This mostly pose health hazards for many stars. Worst, this can lead to depression and death, as is the case with Jonghyun and the young girl.

As sign of respect to Sulli, the author made this site inactive for several days. Again and again, depression is no joke.

What if…

What if Sulli did not enter the K-Pop scene? To put it into perspective, let’s intertwine her life story with that of mine, since we are of the same age:

Sulli once revealed that she left for Seoul alone during her fourth grade. Six years later, she was once featured in a show, doing taste test. While she battles the hurdles of life, the author struggled on the loss of parent and on final moments as tenth grader.

She continued her college studies by attending one in her later years. This entailed her efforts to be just a simple college girl. At the same time, the author struggled for professional degree and in managing the actual work.

Afterwards, I would’ve traveled on that school, study again, and just ignore her even if her smile was so genuine. I would try to copy notes from her if our subjects are so hard. But eventually, as I learned that Sulli once dreamed to be a mother before she dies, I would’ve offered myself to fulfill her ultimate wish.

Summing up, her dreams are simple: Be a good student, and someday a mother. Now, her dreams vanished with some netizens killing her. I wonder now if haters had slept peacefully, as they succeeded in killing the young girl with their words.

Words can kill

Words can hurt and kill, and we must admit that we can’t avoid statements that hurt. If that’s the case then we have to issue apologies. But if done out of hatred, then we have a problem.

While nasty comments can actually help improve their performance, on the downside this can lead to depression, suicide, or worst, death.

Sulli’s death further affirmed two realities: (1) We only live once, and (2) life is fleeting. If we endlessly attack our fellow people and idols with malicious remarks, we not only waste our lives, but that of others too.

Effect on reviewers

This also gravely affected us reviewers, who tend to give brutal and frank assessments on performances. With her death, we have to rethink on the way we choose our words. If we have to be brutal and frank, we have to do these out of desire for improvement. But if we have to compliment them, we also have to do so.

The author tends to settle down and review write-ups before publishing. And if there’s a beef against anyone, there’s a justifiable reason, and is not usually repeating it (unless necessary). Because they will anyway face consequences of their wrong actions (Galatians 6:7). It’s senseless and a waste of time if I always hate any group, agency, and/or fandom.

Usually, the negatives on author’s reviews would be on horror, astrology, lack of excitement of music, difficult dances, and lack of storyline. Other than that, negative reviews on artists are rare.

Enjoy without hate

Now, peoples’ attitudes are going worse, for instance with Han Seohee over Monsta X’s Wonho. Even with Sulli’s death, some netizens still do not learn their lesson. It’s not actually surprising, as they are going to be:

“unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good”
– 2 Timothy 3:3 (NKJV)

In Korean:

“사랑이 없고 용서하지 않고 남을 헐뜯고 자제하지 못하며 사납고 선한 것을 싫어하고”
– 디모데후서 3:3 (KLB)

These attitudes gone worse, and it spilled to K-Pop. It reached the point where Sulli have to carry all these insensible hate remarks. Same goes to other stars like Suga and Jihyo.

Enjoying K-Pop without the hate remarks is still possible. We made it during 2NE1, Wonder Girls, Super Junior, and Big Bang eras. Back then when K-Pop was young, fanwars and “hate comments” exist, but fans do these out of fun. In the end, fans get along with each other.

But look at us now. Fanwars and toxic comments are everywhere, and are getting worse. These came to a point where one have to die, to let us realize what went wrong.

With success of K-Pop today, the industry must undergo changes for the better. K-Pop as whole should then consider managing artists and fans to prevent another disaster from happening again.

What to do?

It’s sad to think that actions are taken only when Sulli died. Hope that the actions to resolve this would not be futile.

Agencies and fans share the burden of protecting the remaining artists. For agencies, this includes programs to help them cope up, and pressing charges against malicious commenters. It is in the same principle that we will rate agencies at year-end.

For fans, we have to protect and defend our favorites against attackers in the best way possible. It’s better if we send our artists some messages to cheer them up, or praise them for good work. If we take our part, then K-Pop is on a best path.

For “He who would love life, and see good days,
Let him refrain his tongue from evil,
And his lips from speaking deceit.”
– 1 Peter 3:10 (NKJV)

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