As part of celebrating our fourth year of existence, the author translated this recent article into full English. This pertains to pressure obtained from her parents, and this pressure is so special since examinees in CPA (Chartered Accountants) board exam are expected to pass one of the most difficult exams in the world.
I believe that this deserves special attention not only from our fellow bloggers, but also to all people who undergone the same situation. Hope this pushes us to become realistic on our expectations, and I sincerely hope that this inspires everyone.
Even if the CPA board exam (or Chartered Accountants exam) has been finished already this year, the pressure is still strong for accountancy students and reviewees to pass the board exam. But the pressure becomes more intense if we talk about topping the board exam. I should know that because I had gone through with these things
I know that this complaint of examinees will never end. And this is the reason why forever still exists in this world. In these times when pressure is going stronger everywhere, parents must not take this for granted. Otherwise, their dreams would possibly go to waste.
For the first time, I will give a love advice on family matters. It deals with problem of an examinee who lost direction and doesn’t know what to do. It is due to the pressure she experiences with her family, who expects her to top the board exam. Okay, let’s start!
From Accounting Coach Philippines:
To my mom and dad:
The CPA Licensure Exam ended a while ago.
Thank you for supporting and trusting me. Thank you for taking care of me, educating me, and giving all my needs. Thank you because you gave me chance to study and obtain knowledge in my course.
Mom/Dad, I’m really pressured. I’m pressured, because almost all of you belived that I will pass. Almost all of you believe that CPALE would be easier for me because I graduated with Latin honors, topped in different national mockboards, and also in quizbees and SGV cup 😦
I’m pressured, because almost all of you belived that I will top the board since I reviewed for two years: 1 year on undergrad and 1 year formal review 😦 . I’m pressured, because right after I took the exam, you called me not to know if I’m okay, but to ask, “Did you make it to the top?”
Mom/Dad, friends and teachers: Did you know that I almost lost courage on first day of exam? I almost break down in AFAR (Advanced Accounting), and I don’t want to continue taking other subjects.
Did you know that I almost did not sleep just to attend review classes? I almost became dizzy inside the room, because I felt drowsy.
Did you know that I made every effort I can do just to pass this board exam?
But did you know that, in the end, with many theories I read, with many problems I solved, I could not avoid some questions that really weakened me. 😦 Questions that made me realize one thing – that I don’t deserve these achievements when I was in college. 😦
I almost tell myself, “I should not have been like this/that” or, “I’m stupid, because even if I studied so much, I could not answer it.” 😦
Mom/dad, friends, teachers:
To be honest, I’m really very tired 😭. Hope you might accept me regardless of the results.
To my Mom/Dad:
If you ask me if I’m okay, can I hug you? 😭😭😭😭
I’ll be home too sooooon 😭
P.S. Sorry if I narrated my drama here. I can’t really say it directly to them because of some family matters 😦 Sorry again . I’ll be deleting this after a few moments. 😦
If your parents are pressuring you to be on top, let them be stressed. Just give all your best, and God will do the rest.
First of all, they are not aware that they are responsible for what you feel today. They are not aware that they give you stress that you feel. Or disregarding it. And no. I’m serious. Because if you’ll look at it, they are expecting something of you too much.
Now, what if you did not pass? They will get hurt. It’s normal for them to hope for the best, but they pushed it to the limit, to the point that they pressured you to top the board exam.
Face the truth
I’ll share with you the painful truth all must know: Being on top or not will not matter, especially on actual practice.
If you’ll look at it, you’re luckier than me. Passing this would not be a problem for you. Your parents must know this. If your problem is on how to top the board exam, my problem is on passing it. You’re still luckier, as not all are given the chance to become CPA/Chartered Accountant.
In actual practice, the passer may have some advantages over the topper. That passer may have some skills that the topper may not possess. And vice versa. Same with attitude. The passer’s attitude may be better than that of topper. And also vice versa. Most employers do not give importance on grades, but on your skills and attitude. That’s all.
Another painful truth: Topping the board exam becomes tougher due to competition. With so many accounting schools, with their strict retention policies, and extreme pressure to many examinees to be on top, chances to be part of Top 10 are very slim. Topping it becomes fiercer now as examinees from the province are catching up to become topnotchers. Like Rommel Edusma and Jayson Ong Chan, who are both graduates from Tacloban City, Leyte.
Chances are little to be on top: May 2018 – 0.04% chance to top the board exam. October 2018 – 0.03% chance to become one. Now, if only ten take the exam, no problem. Definitely, you’ll be part of it. Passing the board exam will suffice.
I could not also conclude that they don’t really care for you when they asked if you topped it. That may be the first thing on their minds.
It is possible that they know the saying, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” In short, if you did not make it to the top, at least you passed it.
On your part, understand them. They are working for your future. For your dreams. Maybe you misinterpret their words.
If you’ll look at it, this is the painful truth: “Being on average is greater. No expectations at all.” Those who are in the average have time to study without additional pressure. So you would be surprised if those who top came from less known school in the province.
Take it from me. I know that I’m not the average in our class. In fact, I am failing in our class. I failed three times in qualifying exam, and if I did not appeal to our teacher, he will discourage me to take the board. I have weak analysis, and this made it difficult to catch up in quizzes and activities.
If there will be inter-school activities, normally I am assigned in Gen. Info category and not on Accounting Quiz. Otherwise, if I will be included in the latter, our school will always lose.
Because of this, there were no added pressure for me to pass this, even if it is really hard. If I excelled in school and named as cum laude, I would not carry the extreme pressure in actual board. I have no choice if I was told to take it right after graduation. And I could not blog here for two years if these happens.
I also feel that you’re discouraged. I had gone through these things. But regardless of your problems, don’t forget to pray. Everytime I have problems, I seek the Lord’s help.
I’ll tell you this: I faced so many challenges: Bringing handouts, budgeting with limited money, rushing just to catch up with review, difficulty in finding jobs, and doing jobs and review at the same time. Because of these, there came a point that I want to give up. Because I feel that nothing good will happen if I continue these. Especially that they are pressuring me to pass this no matter what.
October 7, 2017. Taxation was the first subject. Because questions were too hard, I did not stop crying at the comfort room. There I released all my anger, my bad feelings, my frustrations. Because I know, with the situation I experienced, I would not meet their expectations. But I still have to finish the fight. It was painful for me that I did not pass, but that lost when I became conditional.
Because of this, I realized that I have to cast all burdens to God since the burden was so great. Right after the October 2017 exam, I wanted to cry at St. Thomas Square when I heard the song “Safe” by Moira because I felt discouraged at that time.
Reguarly asking to Him for guidance was a big help, as He gave me my longstanding request to be a CPA. Hope you do the same.
Not always lucky
Passing the board exam is okay. Topping it is just a bonus.
Another truth that all should accept and understand: Having Latin honors does not assure of CPA title. Even if he/she is excellent, doing great in actual board would be a different matter. There were instance that an honor student committed suicide because he/she could not take anymore the pressure. Another commented that “there were summa cum laudes that did not pass the exam…”
Why? What we have learned in college and formal review is so different from actual board. Questions may be the same, or may not be the same. Actually, you would be surprised especially if the exact questions are not given to you till the day of exam.
Another thing we must understand: The format in subsequent board exams will change: One by one, situational questions will be used, and this will test the analysis of examinees. This will be the equalizer for all examinees, regardless of honors obtained.
Regardless of the outcome, your parents love you. You are their child, aren’t you?
To the parents, please hug your sons/daughters after the actual board. Or tell them that you support them. This will be enough for them to feel that you care. This will also give them aded confidence to continue their journey to becoming CPA.
Make them understand why we are all doing these. It will be a big help to reduce your misunderstandings.
Enough pressure is great to push our child to the limits. But let’s not give them too much stress, especially if personal issue with him/her is involved. Let’s understand that if mere Accounting is stressful, how much more with personal issues? Set aside this first for the sake of making him/her pass the exam.